Sunday, October 09, 2005
has it ever occured to you & my theory
Has it ever occurred to you that when ever we heard of a friend’s (or even a distant friend’s) breakup (with bf/gf), we would naturally ask “Why?”. We seem not to be satisfied with the knowledge of it.
I think those who had experienced breakups would already have put up a brave front by affirming it. Can you imagine how they must have felt if everyone start asking him /her “Why?”.
I had forgotten how I'd dealt with the “Announcement” of my breakups. I am not the sort who will lie, as one lie will leads to another, and how long will you able to hide? I think I had simply told my friends the truth and if they asked the reason behind. I’d just give a one-liner summary to normal friends but confided to my good friends. (Friends, let me know if ‘m wrong hor. :P)
Has it ever occurred to you that we tend to take our friends’ sides or to take the sides of those of our same gender when we heard of their breakups.
Not meaning to say that I am a Saint but I, for one, do not always take on my friends’ side. Irregardless of my friends being the “dumper” or “dumpee”, If I feels that they were at fault, I will give them a piece of my mind, though I will be there for them if they need my company. Blunt, tactless, direct… that’s what u can call me.
I dislike it when ppl start to say things like
“ so it must be her fault” or
“ he’s like that, no wonder his gf left him” when they don’t even know the whole story behind the couple’s breakup.
To me, there is no “who’s right” or "who’s in the wrong” from a broken relationship. I had been thinking abt this and came up with a theory to explain my view.
A failed relationship happens simply because things can’t work out right for the two of them.Let say the result
“10” means a successful relationship (marriage + happily every after).
So for a successful relationship (answer must turned out to be 10), it would be
“ Guy + Gal + other factors (such as understanding, compromise) = 10Say
Guy A = 3 and
Gal B = 4. And it just happened that “the other factors” happened to make a 3,
So it would be 3 +4+3
And that makes a perfect 10.
That is when a relationship will work out to a marriage that last forever.
But say
Gal B (= 4) falls in loves with
Guy C, who is = 2, and say the “other factors” also contribute to a 3
Hence
Guy C +
Gal B + other factors
= 2+4+3
=9
That doesn’t make a ‘10’.
Gal B has a choice right? She can accepts a ‘9”, live with the problems she has to face when she marries him
But she also have a choice to have a ‘perfect 10’ when she let goes of
Guy C and happens to meet
Guy A.
Is
Gal B at fault if she can’t accept a ‘9’ but want a “10”?
No!Is
Guy C at fault cos he is a “2” but not a “3”?
No!For what you may know,
Guy C may get to know another gal and together, they added up to a perfect 10.
Hmm you get what I mean?
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