Monday, October 31, 2005

Well, things are not too well at my home.

It simply started form a bitch who my uncle married complained abt Sugar. Yah I call her a bitch. I seldom used that world on people and if I use on one (I mean seriously, not jokingly), then she is a bitch.

I remembered once in my poly days, my classmates & I somehow talked abt a gal from our neighbouring class, and I simply commented that she is a bitch. And I could still remembered what my friend said then:

“Listen, Listen, if Harmonie ( substitute with my real name) says someone is a bitch, then she IS a bitch”

Ok back to that bitch woman. Perhaps I shouldn’t call her a bitch, as that is an insult to Sugar’s family and the rest of the dogs. My sis called her “C**** Pig”, not because my sis is a racist, just that that woman is from that country. Now that’s an insult to the pigs too.

hmm, as for the rest of the story, I will post it at my private blog instead.

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Friday, October 28, 2005

Detached and Unattached

Describe yr status:

Single/married/divorced

These are the choices you often see when filling up forms.
So what does single mean?

Single can actually be further classified into

1) Single as in you are not married. Even though you are in a relationship, so you still can be considered as single.
2) Single as in you are never attached before
3) single as in you had been in a relationship but now “detached”


Yeah, I remembered sometime last year, a friend of mine mentioned that we should state our status as detached, especially when we had just broken up from our bfs then.

According to dictionary, “Detach” means: separate or remove something from something else that it is connected to.

So things can be detached from things, human can also be detached from other human too, right?

If there is such a term call “attached”, why can’t we include the term “detached” when describing our status too?

On the other hand, I do feel that it seems slightly defensive if you are telling others you are detached rather than single. It’s is like implying “ 我不是没有人要。” as you are telling others “我曾经被人爱过”.


Hmmm above are just some silly thoughts of mine. Somehow the term “detached” came into my mind recently after seeing a few friends “detaching” from their LTRs.....





I could almost strangle my ZW xiaodi for asking me that question on that Monday . Actually what he asked was pretty harmless, just that so many people had been asking abt it since last year, that make me feel so “grrrrrrrrrrrrrhhhhhhhh”.

Recently, even close friends had started asking me that question and that really made me wonder did I commit some crime by not getting involved in any relationship after being “detached” for almost 2 years.


Ok ok ok, the part abt strangling and Ggrrrhhhhhhhh are exaggerated.
However, it is really starting to get on my nerves that my close friends, my gor even had ideas to match make me with their friends!


Realised I had not state clearly what “that question” refers to. Later Sips gonna complain that my entries getting cheem liao. (会 cheem meh?)

Well, it’s just that my friends had been asking questions of this sort:

怎么样了呀？

怎么久了，还单身啊？


For those who do not know much abt my past, I won't blame them if they asked questions like that. But what I am surprised is that my close friends had seen the hurt I had been through and yet expect me to get involved in another relationship now.

As expected, a couple of my friends wrote "祝你早日找到你的白马王子." on greeting cards even when I had warned them not to write such things.

Just like the lyrics of 眼泪 described : 爱上你是最快乐的事, 却又换来最痛苦的悲 , I was left shattered when the relationship ended. So much that I took more than a year to be fully recovered from the hearbreak.

就像是被摔坏的瓷杯，虽然摔破的手把已被粘接回，
可是还留下一道裂痕。
杯子虽然可以使用，但是使用者得很小心地捧着它，
以免它再次断裂... ...



我并不认为自己很挑剔，我向往个平凡的生活。
男人太有钱，太受欢迎，反而会令我更不安。
总之，我现在还处于“unattached mode” 是因为还没遇到一个我认为懂得如何小心捧着杯子，不让它再摔坏或破碎的人。

如果算命的结果是准的 （不是说我相信）， 我在28岁才会出嫁。
看到周围的朋友们都很难维持多年的感情， 如果我现在 attached 的话，我没有信心这段感情会维持那么久，毕竟现在离我28岁生日还有好几年的时间。

不要问我为什么，我有个很强烈的感觉，我的下一段恋情会在我26岁左右才开始。
至于那“未来丈夫”， 也许现在已出现在我生命里，但我还不知道他是谁。

所以，my dear friends, 等我过了26岁, 还处于 “unattached mode" 时, 你们才来"烦" 我， 好吗？ =P

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会...

Let me play around with words. hahaha


曾经在msn messenger 的 personal message 写上：
“有一天我会 有一天我会，
你明白我的意识吗？”

现在，我可以说：
昨天就是那“有一天”。
我已会有一天我会。
虽然还不是会得很完美，但算是合格了。
有点沾沾自喜，因为当初没想到这么快会。

是故意漏掉一些标点符号，因为不想让某人知道我在学什么。
理解我会了什么的朋友，你们就keep it to yourselves 吧！

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Thursday, October 27, 2005

Late Oktoberfest

Decided to post the entry regarding the "event" on 24 Oct 05 on my other blog, as I know that there are "outsiders" reading this blog. Since she is a "public figure", I don't think think it is wise to post pictures abt that event and talk abt what we made her did on this blog.

Anyway, here's my report regarding the Oktoberfest celebration my company had on 26 Oct (Wed).


Well, this is what I found during the office pantry fridge raid:




Yes, Beer! Bottles & Bottles of Beer.
Carlsberg, Heineken, Tiger and Erdinger -- 4 different brands.
Shocking find???

In an attempt to create a more "lively working environment" (this is what I think), the management decided to hold an "October Festival" where the staff can "officially" drink and eat (sausages, pizzas) to their hearts content.

For your info, this year Oktoberfest ends on 3 Oct. Perhaps that is why they (management) decided to call it "October Festival" instead of the original Oktoberfest.

For more information regarding Oktoberfest, you can visit the site below.
http://www.oktoberfest.de/en/02/content/faq1/


On a last note, I can't wait to execute "Project ChiBaBoM". Guess the "Birthday Babies" will have to watch out for the "ChiBaBomers" next Monday. keke

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Tuesday, October 25, 2005

Belated birthday to "Harmonie's Sentimental World"

Belated Happy 2nd Birthday to you, my dear blog.
Almost forgotten about it.
Can't believe I am still keeping this blog alive. Haha.
Actually what i regret was that i did not include the date of my 1st entry when I posted it, Hence I am unable to figure out its actual birthdate, but it should be before 17 Oct 2003.

Does that makes my blog a Librian too? haha.


Speaking of birthday, shall report abt "Mrs Wong's" birthday celebration which was held yesterday .
hmmm but I may be posting on my other private blog wor. ;P

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Monday, October 24, 2005

Harmonie's treasures

Spent the past weekend attending an event and then clean up my cabinets. Found quite a few treasures and here’s a quick run-through of them:


New Treasure: iDog.

Received this iDog from some “focus group discussion” cum Star Members high tea session. Yes Sips, u know how I got it. As for that $100 voucher, no shops would accept them Grrrr. So I only have this dog to play with.

But I still prefer black & white dog (Sugar!) to this white dog.


毛妹 keychain.

Anyone still remembered the cartoon serials Mojacko (宇宙小毛球)? Found this among my boxes of keychains. This毛妹 is the sister of the “leading furball” 毛毛.

Cute hor.


Cassette Tapes & CD

Kaoz. Can’t imagine I still have cassette tapes lying around.
The grey cassette tap which you see in the top left corner is actually 张学友《真爱+精选集》. It was the 1st cassette I bought when I was ard 13 yrs old. And I had bought it secretly. 张学友 is my favourite artiste then , and still one of my favourite male singers now.

Then Ah Niu 阿牛 “emerged” into the entertainment industry. Like others, I went crazy over his 搞笑但又很写实的歌曲. Apart from the EP CD (my 1st CD), I bought cassette tapes cos I dun have much $ then. Think at that time cassette cost abt $6 while CD cost abt $17.


Lyrics cum Scores books.

Dunno what you called these. But judging from their cover, some of you might say they does not belong to your era. =P
Hmm, let me recall, the one with Jacky Cheung 张学友 on the cover was bought when I was 14 or 15 years old. Cos I remembering buying them at the Toa Payoh Popular Bookshop , where it was still located at level 3 of Blk 190, which was just a level above the tuition centre which I went to.

Quite foolish of me to buy them then when I do not have any chance to learn any music instrument. But I remembered I was rather 自作聪明, tried to convert all the scores o that I can played the song with my recorder (remember how we were forced to learn the recorder in our secondary music lessons?), and turn out all the keys were wrong, simply because I do not have any music theory background to begin with. Haha.


YES 933 Hits Awards folder

Hmm, perhaps I shall put this up for auction. Maybe it’s a collector’s item now. Got it after spending some amount at 7 Eleven, who was one of the event sponsors.
Can you figure out who are the artistes?
Faye Wong, Andy Lau, Aaron Kwok. Pan Mei Chen, Sun Yao Wei, Zhang Qing Fang, Sandy Lam & Leon Lai.

Now, why there wasn’t any images of “歌神” 张学友, cos he had won The Most Popular Male Artiste Award for a few consecutive years and “to be fair” he was not eligible to contend for the award. Owwww.

Ok, these are just some of the "treasures" I had digged out. Of cos there are some more personal stuffs like old photos, ticket stubs, notes, cards.

I am still stuck with my "unattachment" article......

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Friday, October 21, 2005

Flosss again?

Remember my past entry titled "May the flosss be with you"?

Does this cartoon avatar look like me?
I create it myself. Hahaha.


How can I do it when I don't have any illustration program.
Thanks to JQ who introduce this site ( http://illustmaker.abi-station.com/index_en.shtml) to me, all I did was to choose from the templates ( of nose, hairstyle, eyes...) provided and voila!Here's the end results (of cos the mole was added on by myself).

Try it yrself!

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东西在哪里?

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHH!

东西在哪里？

我不知道！


Last night, I was about t took out my CD-R collection of mp3 to burn for someone and to my dismay, I couldn't find them (except 1) in the box . I have 8 CD-R containing mp3 of songs of different genre -- from the 80s xinyao, to the 90s 小虎队，草蜢 songs, japs Tv serials theme songs to the classic chinese & english pop ( not so pop now) songs.

Where are they now?
Even fter rumaging the top left cabinets, the top center cabinet and the middle cabinet for more than hour , and I still couldn't find them.

The last time I took them out was a few minths ago when I brought them to office to let my partner copies some songs and I did bring them home. Had just checked that they were not left in office.

Kaoz. If these are collections of recent pop songs, I may still able to recover them. but..............

Arghhh. Seems like I have to clear out my stuff on Sunday. Hopefully can find them.

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Thursday, October 20, 2005

Two extremes

Wanted to write abt some serious stuff but din have the "mood" to do it.
So now, I shall post two "extreme pics" for u to see.

If you were to be asked with this question: " you wanna hear the good news first or bad news first?", most of us will choose to hear the bad news first.


How abt if I am to ask u now if you wish to see the ugly pic first or the pretty pic first?

Can't decide?
Hence I decide for u lor.


Show u the pretty pic.





The cake is so cute and pretty hor. Can you visualise how big the cake is with the hand beside as a gauge?
Of cos the cake is not mine, it belongs to the "Princess" Dr.Low, who showed me her cake when I went to visit my ex-colleagues yesterday.
Her friends really gave her a surprise by sending it to her office.

Arhh, dun care liao. Next year I shall demand my friends to get me a cake.
Have been getting my cake for the past few years that seems like my friends took it for granted liao. It is only on my last birthday that friends whom I just got to know this year find it strange that I bought my own cake made me realised that I have a different "practice" from others.
Hmm I had received more birthday flower bouquets than cakes, perhaps they thought I am more suitable to be "flower girl".

What "flower girl" crap I am talking?!!!! *Arh Bish*


Speaking of *arh bish*, Dr.LOW gave me a nic -- "bish girl", cos I am always "bish~ing" her on msn. Yeah, even Flutterby "complained" the birthday card she made for me that I better be more 温柔, dun always *arh bish* or *bish* her on msn. keke.

As long as I dun *bish* ppl in real life, I dun see anything wrong *bish~ing* online.




Went to eat steamboat with 2 ChiBaBom members yesterday evening. U know who u are.
Anyway, as for those friends who share the common hangout place as me, you 'd have receive an invitation to join "Chi Ba Bom" group . Check it out ya.

Back to the steamboat. Dun wanna talk at it much cos it is practially wash, cook, oil, black, and eat eat eat.
We din eat a lot compared to the steamboat we had at Chinatown. Perhaps eating all these tepanyaki-styled meat made us feel very bloated.

Din take a "before" pic but took a "after pic".
Dun say I din warn you, it's rather an ugly sight.




Very extreme from the first pic right?

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Tuesday, October 18, 2005

11-17 Oct

Events happened during the past week ( includes haircut, 2 x MC and Code 2730) were reported at my other blog. So friends, u know what to do if you have the link and what to do if you don't.

*smirking again*

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Thursday, October 13, 2005

Sugar posts

Woof! Woof! Harlow, I am Sugar. As Harmonie Jie Jie is rather busy these few days , so here I am posting on her behalf.
See, I am a "branded dog", wearing Burberrys , and she din even get to own a piece. haha.

Anyway dunno what Harmonie Jie Jie has been busy with, her schedule is full of activities from Wed to next Monday. Guess what? She had 10 friends whose birthdays fall on Oct. Didn't know she has so many Librians friends.

According to her friends, they were inspired to hold birthday parties after attending her birthday gathering. She will be attending one birthday party called "Code 2730" this weekend. Dunno if she's going to blog abt it , perhaps she will report abt her activities on her other private blog. Woof!

Speaking of blog, Harmonie Jie Jie has a friend by the name of Flutterby who helped her to "touched-up" this blog. As you can see, the pink background of "ribbon flowers" pics besides the main heading had been removed. Looks neater right?


Anyway Harmonie Jie Jie was very upset and pissed off by some brat who purposely use her laptop in the bedroom while others need to sleep and claimed that her typing is silent and a $ sucker who spoilts the brat.

So Harmonie Jie Jie went to indulge herself a little. She bought a new handphone pouch as her purple pouch given by "Ah Shui" had become dirty and the flower & lace appliqué had came off.
So this is what she bought.

Ribbons and pearls again! Can someone tell her not to get too "over" with her "It's so S." style?

I'm off to chew my bone now, bye!

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Sunday, October 09, 2005

has it ever occured to you & my theory

Has it ever occurred to you that when ever we heard of a friend’s (or even a distant friend’s) breakup (with bf/gf), we would naturally ask “Why?”. We seem not to be satisfied with the knowledge of it.

I think those who had experienced breakups would already have put up a brave front by affirming it. Can you imagine how they must have felt if everyone start asking him /her “Why?”.

I had forgotten how I'd dealt with the “Announcement” of my breakups. I am not the sort who will lie, as one lie will leads to another, and how long will you able to hide? I think I had simply told my friends the truth and if they asked the reason behind. I’d just give a one-liner summary to normal friends but confided to my good friends. (Friends, let me know if ‘m wrong hor. :P)

Has it ever occurred to you that we tend to take our friends’ sides or to take the sides of those of our same gender when we heard of their breakups.

Not meaning to say that I am a Saint but I, for one, do not always take on my friends’ side. Irregardless of my friends being the “dumper” or “dumpee”, If I feels that they were at fault, I will give them a piece of my mind, though I will be there for them if they need my company. Blunt, tactless, direct… that’s what u can call me.

I dislike it when ppl start to say things like “ so it must be her fault” or “ he’s like that, no wonder his gf left him” when they don’t even know the whole story behind the couple’s breakup.

To me, there is no “who’s right” or "who’s in the wrong” from a broken relationship. I had been thinking abt this and came up with a theory to explain my view.

A failed relationship happens simply because things can’t work out right for the two of them.

Let say the result “10” means a successful relationship (marriage + happily every after).


So for a successful relationship (answer must turned out to be 10), it would be

“ Guy + Gal + other factors (such as understanding, compromise) = 10

Say Guy A = 3 and Gal B = 4. And it just happened that “the other factors” happened to make a 3,
So it would be 3 +4+3
And that makes a perfect 10.

That is when a relationship will work out to a marriage that last forever.

But say Gal B (= 4) falls in loves with Guy C, who is = 2, and say the “other factors” also contribute to a 3

Hence Guy C + Gal B + other factors
= 2+4+3
=9

That doesn’t make a ‘10’.
Gal B has a choice right? She can accepts a ‘9”, live with the problems she has to face when she marries him

But she also have a choice to have a ‘perfect 10’ when she let goes of Guy C and happens to meet Guy A.

Is Gal B at fault if she can’t accept a ‘9’ but want a “10”?
No!

Is Guy C at fault cos he is a “2” but not a “3”?
No!

For what you may know, Guy C may get to know another gal and together, they added up to a perfect 10.


Hmm you get what I mean?

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Friday, October 07, 2005

Whooppeee! Had posted something that happened yesterday on my other blog. Check it out if you want.

Below are the other thoughts which I mentioned that are to be continued form the previous entry





“让我对你说bye-bye”
---- 张惠妹 《Bad Boy》

“你没有想过我会说分手 也许太习惯我在你左右”
---- 卢巧音《至少走得比你早》



有没有察觉到，当我们知道一位女性朋友和男友分手了，我们通常会问 “她还好吧！”。因为通常都是男方先提出分手。也许男人较“那得起，放得下”。

可是，随着时代的改变，人们的教育水平提高了，女人也变得更强了。很多女性都有自己的事业。经济能力提高的当儿，要求自然也提高了。对于婚姻，少数会抱着“嫁鸡随鸡，嫁狗随狗”的信念。如果经过那么多年，男友还是处于在“原点”，女生会开始怀疑，自己应不应该再继续走下去，毕竟“以自己的条件，应该是可以找到更好的”。

因此，现代的女生学会鼓起勇气，提出分手…….


我曾问过一位男性朋友，”if there is a couple who have been dating since their secondary school days. And 10 years later, they are now working adults. Do you think the gal is materialistic if she decided to call off the relationship as her boyfriend’s educational level and salary are lower than hers?”

To my surprise, he doesn’t think so; he feels that it is a man’s responsibility to make a woman feel secured.

Hmmmm, a bit contradicting here. 女人变强了，但始终还可望有个“大男人”可依靠。





“我允许了你 让爱的自由还给你”
-------- 郑中基《绝口不提!爱你》

“我给你最后的疼爱是手放开”
---------李圣杰《手放开》


如果女生提出分手时，男生并没有尝试挽回，淡然接受；
那是不是因为:
1) 他并没那么爱她
2) 他对这段感情已经累了
3) “面子”问题
4) 因为爱她，所以“手放开”，让她远走高飞


总觉得如果女生初次提出分手时，男生连原因都没去追问，那肯定有些“蹊跷”。
如果是因为面子问题而没设法去挽回，那我觉得他并没有那么爱她。
如果是因为他累了，那他也是没有那么爱她。

我认为：

如果两人经过了许多波折，但还没办法解决，因此女生提出分手，
或女生爱上了一个她认为会带给她更多的幸福的男人而提出分手，
那男生默默地接受才算是真正的“因为爱你就让你走” 。






“没想到我们爱情的凶手 竟是习惯和时间 这两个朋友”
---------李圣杰《抓！爱情的凶手》

难免发现，两个恋人走在一起久了，会 tend to take each other for granted。
因为习惯对方在身旁，有些人甚至会不加理会对方所发的“牢骚”，因为他们以为爱人会永远在身边。
女人都很希望被呵护。如果男友不再像恋爱出气时那么关照她，常忽略她，那别怪女生开始问：“你跟我在一起，是因为习惯，还是爱？”。

忘了在哪儿读到，以上那句话，是男生最怕被问的。

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Thursday, October 06, 2005

post for 29 sep to 3 Nov

Haha. The posts were posted at my other blog. Friends who have the link can view it at that site.
The rest (friends) who are interested, can get the link from me.


* Feeling smug*

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Tuesday, October 04, 2005

Somehow a series of events which happened recently had apparently led me to become a “spokesperson” for my friends.
I don’t mind helping them out as I had my own experiences where I just dun wanna keep on repeating the same thing to my friends’ questions, especially when it is not something to rejoice about.
Being a spokesperson, you gotta know when to release the news, what are the details should be released and what shouldn’t.

Just hope I did a good job….

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Monday, October 03, 2005

在你心中有這樣的一個人嗎？

Read this from JQ's blog. 看了后，感触很多。于是，决定和大家分享。

在你心中有這樣的一個人嗎？

你們可能相愛過，你們也可能喜歡對方，
但是，為了什麼原因你們沒有在一起？

也許他為了朋友之間的義氣，不能追你。
也許為了顧及家人的意見，你們沒有在一起。
也許為了出國深造，他沒有要你等他。
也許你們相遇太早，還不懂得珍惜對方。
也許你們相遇太晚，你們身邊已經有了另一個人。
也許你回頭太遲，對方已不再等待。
也許你們彼此在捉摸對方的心，而遲遲無法跨出界線。

不過即使你們沒有在一起，你們還是保持了朋友的關係。
但是你們心底清楚，對這個人，你比朋友還多了一份關心。
即使不能跟他名正言順的牽手逛街，你們還是可以做無所不談的朋友。
他有喜歡的人，你口頭上會幫他追，
心裡卻不是很清楚，你是不是真的希望他追到。

他遇到困難時，你會盡你所能的幫他，不會計較誰又欠了誰。
男女朋友吃醋了，你會安撫他們說你和他只是朋友，
但你心中會有那麼一絲的不確定。
每個人這輩子，心中都有過這麼一個特別的朋友，很矛盾的行為。
一開始你不甘心只做朋友的，但久了，突然發現這樣最好。

你寧願這樣關心他，總好過你們在一起而有天會分手。
你寧願做他的朋友，彼此不會吃醋，才可以真的無所不談。
特別是這樣，你還是知道，他永遠會關心你的。
做不成男女朋友，當他那個特別的朋友，有什麼不好呢？
你心中的這個特別朋友. . .？ 是誰呢？


写得很好，不是吗？据JQ说，这篇是在网陆流传的文章。可是，在新加坡，我们却在传这类的“文章”：

And here is a classic..............

QUESTION : What's the difference between Ang-mor and Hokkien fairy
Tales?

ANSWER: Ang-mor fairy tales begin with "Once upon a time..."
and Hokkien fairy tales begin with "Lim Peh ka li kong..."

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